I have moved a LOT since I turned 18. And I'm not talking moving from one apartment/home to another in the same city. I'm talking from California to Seattle to go to college, then Seattle to Olympia when I lost my job, then Olympia to Alaska for Adam's promotion, and now Alaska to Chicago for another of Adam's promotions. That's a lot of upheaval and change to drastically different places.
Each time I've made one of these changes and started announcing it, people make comments. Of course they do. Here is how it works.
Step 1. Be happy for me.
"CONGRATS THAT IS SO EXCITING THAT YOU ARE MOVING TO _________!"
Step 2. Make a comment about something horrible about X location that actually has nothing to do with my preferences/issues/fears and has everything to do with you and your preferences/issues/fears. Be sure to paraphrase your comment as to why *I* won't like/will struggle with this new location, and be sure to leave the fact that *you* actually would have this issue out of your remark.
When I moved to Seattle from California everyone, and I do mean EVERYONE said how happy they were for me, and then asked me how I'd survive the rain. Or did I know it rained there? They heard it rained there 300 days of the year, would I melt? People, you think I applied to a school in the PACIFIC NORTHWEST without knowing it rained there a lot? Stop talking about how I'll adjust and just say what you mean, Great for you that you're moving to Seattle, but *I* would die in Seattle because *I* don't like rain.
When I moved to Olympia from Seattle people were happy(!!!!) then remarked on how much *I'd* miss city life. Oh really. Is this a statement? Or a question? You do remember that when I lived in Seattle I lived in the one neighborhood in all of Seattle that felt like a small town, right? That I actively sought out a neighborhood in Seattle that felt like suburbia. Hmmmm I wonder why…
From Olympia to Alaska it was all about the snow. THE SNOW, THE WINTER, YOU'LL DIE! And yeah, that one I was a wee worried about, only because I'd never done the whole snow thing, but then even after I lived through the snowiest winter on record and told people I loved it, they still couldn't drop it. People, my favorite season in Alaska is winter. YOUR COMMENT ISN'T EVEN ABOUT ME.
And now Chicago. The most hilarious move because the comments are as follows. "Congrats!" + [comment about how cold it is in Chicago]. PEOPLE. I currently live in Alaska. Where we spend months at 10 to -20 degrees and where for about two months you have only 5-7 hours of DAYLIGHT. And I still worked, worked out, went skiing, took the dogs for walks, hung out with friends and lived. Chicago ain't got NOTHING on an Alaskan winter. Just this past weekend when Adam and I were in Chicago looking for our rental house it was 38 degrees and windy and Chicago residents kept telling us they were sorry it was so cold. We were like, Listen, back home it just snowed 2.5 ft over the weekend, it was -5 when Adam went to work on Friday, and I haven't seen my lawn in 6 months. You people don't KNOW cold.
So this is my public service announcement.
You can comment on someone's adventure, move, whatever, and you might have an issue with where they're headed, and that's totally ok! But own up to it. Tell them congrats and then tell them why you'd never be able to hack it. Emphasis on why YOU would struggle. Because that's probably not an issue for them at all, seeing as they just told you they're moving there and all.
Tomorrow, fun pictures from our quick three day trip to Chicago to find our rental house. Where it's SO COLD ALL THE TIME AND WE'LL DIE.