Earlier this month I bought two preciously small and delicate candles, and tonight (10/15/15) I will light both of them at 7pm in honor of Pregnancy & Infant Loss Remembrance Day, which is part of the larger, Pregnancy & Infant Loss Awareness Month.
These two tiny candles represent two tiny babies that I, along with their parents, friends and families lovingly remember and celebrate since they were taken from us too soon. Although two completely different stories, each loss has completely changed how these parents view the world, and in turn, how those of us close to these grieving parents think about the preciousness of these tiny lives.
I know that my outlook on my own pregnancy right now has been dramatically shifted as a result of being touched by the loss and the love for each of these babies. I have watched their parents struggle, sometimes in utter silence, regarding something that is so heart-breakingly terrible.
In October 1988, President Ronald Reagan declared October as National Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month saying, “When a child loses his parent, they are called an orphan. When a spouse loses her or his partner, they are called a widow or widower. When parents lose their child, there isn’t a word to describe them.” (October15th.com)
So tonight I will light these two candles and I will think of these two babies that left the world before they should have. I will think of their parents who have suffered tremendous losses, and I will send hope and love into the world towards them and all other grieving parents that they will find some peace and solace in the depth of their grief.
No parent should ever say good bye to their child, and tonight I stand with them to honor their beautiful children that we lost too soon.